The Most Beneficial Way to Deal With "Difficult" People

We often fight with the ones who bother us. But fighting with others is already a loss. 

Osho said: "Let this fundamental be remembered always: if you fight with anything false, you will be defeated. The false cannot be defeated, because it is false."

So if you fight a negative thing, you will be defeated. There is no way to defeat a negative thing. 

More importantly, fighting with others is destroying yourself. 

Where do you fight with somebody? In your own brain!

Where do you blame somebody? In your own brain!

First, you have to keep them in your brain as thoughts and emotions. And then another part of your brain fights with the part that keeps their information. Even worst, that information may not be a fact but your own interpretation.

So what is a better way to deal with the one who bothers you?

Don’t focus on fixing the “object” that causes you pain. Otherwise, you will have to fight with many similar objects and lose all the joy of living. Look inside and switch your identity. You will be astonished to see the “object” and the whole world will automatically shift their meanings to you. 

For example, if someone bothers you; you get angry with people who bother you. You use all your energy to fight. The more you fight, the more your energy goes out. You feel weaker and weaker…

The root reason for your fight is because you take the identity as a victim. You see others intimidating; you feel hateful and fearful. You, in fact, suffer from your own feeling, which derives from what you think you are. 

Now you visualize that you are the one who is fully responsible and can take good care of yourself and others. How do you feel? You will see the one who bothered you is actually crying for attention, for help. Now anger turns into compassion. And the energy of compassion heals you and the people around you. 

This is the most beneficial way to deal with “difficult” people. You focus energy on building yourself up from within. This is a true miracle. You now are the master of your life. You can help yourself and others, including "difficult" people.